Experts say ‘faking it until you make it’ works

Believe it or not, one psychology expert has recently said that you can ‘fake it until you make it’ when it comes to matters of the heart, according to recent research.

Apparently we’ve all been wasting our time looking through loads of online dating profiles and we should just settle for the next geezer or bird that stumbles by, according to Richard Wiseman, who says in his latest study that if you simply pretend you find someone attractive for long enough, you’ve got a higher likelihood of falling for them in the end. Suddenly arranged marriages don’t seem so bad after all, as the psychologist found that, while it’s a given that emotions can lead to behaviour, the reverse may be true just as well.

Apparently traditional marriages may start off strong but then slowly diminish in regards for the amount of love each partner feels toward the other, while arranged marriages actually grow stronger over time, at least according to all the research – though most online dating experts doubt that we’ll all abandon our dating profiles and go talk to mum and dad to find ourselves a match.

Still, there’s much to be said for the power of positive action, Prof Wiseman said, who called the findings ‘remarkable.’ With altering your behaviour to match the emotion you want to attain, you can actually change these emotions over time, the psychologist says that this technique can actually be quicker, easier, and more powerful when it comes to change your thought processes and emotions.

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